Monday, September 29, 2008

Old Paper- New Ideas

So i found this paper today that i had written around this time last year. It's kind of ironic i find it today when i just had a discussion of sorts on this exact topic (give or take a little) So i figured i would share the short text I wrote and give you my today thoughts on it (which is short and simple)...

What came first, the chicken or the egg? It’s a basic age-old question, but yet one I think is applicable when speaking to our generation in terms of love versus career. Our generation definitely puts an emphasis on putting ones self first more so than any generation before. We’re probably the first generation whose parents taught us to be successful first and foremost and worry about relationships later.

In today’s world most of us go to college, get a bachelor’s, and wow the world is our oyster. Then we hit the work force and realize for the world to truly be our “oyster” we probably need to obtain a masters or doctorate degree to truly be successful the way we want to be. Before you know it you’re sitting in a class room again, aiming to graduate with the best grades possible. After all, you are paying for this and the more merit you graduate with the better chance at a top-paying position in your field of choice. So in between term papers, exams, and writing your thesis where, does love fit in to the picture? Is it possible to really focus on a relationship when we have big dreams in mind? I’m personally not sure. Here I am working full time, thinking of going back to school, and considering how I would possibly have the time to give someone the amount of attention they deserve of me.

With all that said: What comes first, love or success? I can’t help but think, what if I met that certain someone that I just knew was the one? Would I give all this up for them if they asked me to? Would I try to do it all at the chance of losing true love? It’s truly hard to be twenty-something these days. You have to decide your definition of success and not go on society’s. You have to decide which part of your heart you want to follow more.



My Answer that i have found to this paper... If you truly find the love of your life, as i have, They will understand and let you have both. You take what time you get together and cherish it while understanding that one or both parties have goals to achieve. As long as you put eachother first and find a harmonious balance between love and career, It's beautiful the way it works out. The most important thing to remember is like said... put eachother first but understand the career you are working towards is only to better the financial stability and quality of life you two will make together.

Well thats all. I will be blogging more today or tomorrow about my MI trip this past weekend!! OMG it was sooooo needed

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

SAVE ME!

I never knew I could possibly pack so much stress into one week. I’ve got a HUGE presentation to give Thursday morning that I’m still not done with yet, I have a huge pile of paper work sitting on my desk that has to be done by tomorrow, I have appointments every day this week after work, and even though I leave for vacation Thursday, I have a meeting Friday morning that I’m not at all prepared for. Man. It’s non stop. I really shouldn’t even be writing this, but I have literally been sitting at this desk since 04:45am and if I don’t take a break to write out my frustration, I’m going to go batty. I can feel the tension in the back of my neck, my face is breaking out, I feel irritated with everything. This week is really my chance to prove to everyone here that I really can handle all this that’s on my plate, and I really pray I don’t crack under the pressure, cause it’s a lot of pressure. We’re already skating on thin ice out here where I’m at, so there is no room for error. They’re literally feeding me to the sharks this week. So far I’m doing pretty good, but there’s always the possibility of it going completely south. Anyways, I’m gonna get off here and go get some breakfast. My stomach is mad at me. I’ll update as things change. Hope you all are having a better one than I. And if anyone is in the Newport News area, please stop and get me a low fat Vanilla and caramel cappuccino no foam with a double shot of espresso in it. Thanks!

PS I forgot my cell phone at home today. Thanks stress!

Monday, September 22, 2008

Just Three more days.....

This weekend was nice. Went shopping w/ my parents on Saturday in Williamsburg then went to Busch Gardens w/ some friends on Sunday. Nothing too too exciting. Just a few more days between now and Thursday when I leave for MI! Luckily, I've had a lot to keep me busy, and this week will be no different. I have about a million appointments and business meetings. (Even have to dial into one on Friday while I'm on vacation) So hopefully this week will just fly right on by and Thursday will be here before I know it. This is something I so need right now. To see Matt that is. This world just gets so crazy sometimes and he's the only one that can pull me back. I love it! (I would love it more if he would answer his phone right now though). Hope all is going well for everyone else. I have about a million and one things to take care of at work right now so I'm gonna get off here so i can get my stuff done. Finishing up my United Way Campaign this week. It's been lots of fun. Now I can really focus on ALS Association and raising money for the Walk and all that good stuff. It feels so good to be such a small ity bity part of something so big.

Feminist Vs. Palin

This article was brought to my attention and I felt very strongly about it, so i figured I would post it.

Eve Ensler, the American playwright, performer, feminist and activist best known for "The Vagina Monologues", wrote the following about Sarah Palin.

Drill, Drill, Drill

I am having Sarah Palin nightmares. I dreamt last night that she was a member of a club where they rode snowmobiles and wore the claws of drowned and starved polar bears around their necks. I have a particular thing for Polar Bears. Maybe it's their snowy whiteness or their bigness or the fact that they live in the arctic or that I have never seen one in person or touched one. Maybe it is the fact that they live so comfortably on ice. Whatever it is, I need the polar bears. I don't like raging at women. I am a Feminist and have spent my life trying to build community, help empower women and stop violence against them. It is hard to write about Sarah Palin. This is why the Sarah Palin choice was all the more insidious and cynical. The people who made this choice count on the goodness and solidarity of Feminists. But everything Sarah Palin believes in and practices is antithetical to Feminism which for me is part of one story -- connected to saving the earth, ending racism, empowering women, giving young girls options, opening our minds, deepening tolerance, and ending violence and war. I believe that the McCain/Palin ticket is one of the most dangerous choices of my lifetime, and should this country chose those candidates the fall-out may be so great, the destruction so vast in so many areas that America may never recover. But what is equally disturbing is the impact that duo would have on the rest of the world. Unfortunately, this is not a joke. In my lifetime I have seen the clownish, the inept, the bizarre be elected to the presidency with regularity. Sarah Palin does not believe in evolution. I take this as a metaphor. In her world and the world of Fundamentalists nothing changes or gets better or evolves. She does not believe in global warming. The melting of the arctic, the storms that are destroying our cities, the pollution and rise of cancers, are all part of God's plan. She is fighting to take the polar bears off the endangered species list. The earth, in Palin's view, is here to be taken and plundered. The wolves and the bears are here to be shot and plundered. The oil is here to be taken and plundered. Iraq is here to be taken and plundered. As she said herself of the Iraqi war, "It was a task from God." Sarah Palin does not believe in abortion. She does not believe women who are raped and incested and ripped open against their will should have a right to determine whether they have their rapist's baby or not. She obviously does not believe in sex education or birth control. I imagine her daughter was practicing abstinence and we know how many babies that makes. Sarah Palin does not much believe in thinking. From what I gather she has tried to ban books from the library, has a tendency to dispense with people who think independently. She cannot tolerate an environment of ambiguity and difference. This is a woman who could and might very well be the next president of the United States. She would govern one of the most diverse populations on the earth. Sarah believes in guns. She has her own custom Austrian hunting rifle. She has been known to kill 40 caribou at a clip. She has shot hundreds of wolves from the air. Sarah believes in God. That is of course her right, her private right. But when God and Guns come together in the public sector, when war is declared in God's name, when the rights of women are denied in his name, that is the end of separation of church and state and the undoing of everything America has ever tried to be. I write to my sisters. I write because I believe we hold this election in our hands. This vote is a vote that will determine the future not just of the U.S., but of the planet. It will determine whether we create policies to save the earth or make it forever uninhabitable for humans. It will determine whether we move towards dialogue and diplomacy in the world or whether we escalate violence through invasion, undermining and attack. It will determine whether we go for oil, strip mining, coal burning or invest our money in alternatives that will free us from dependency and destruction. It will determine if money gets spent on education and healthcare or whether we build more and more methods of killing. It will determine whether America is a free open tolerant society or a closed place of fear, fundamentalism and aggression. If the Polar Bears don't move you to go and do everything in your power to get Obama elected then consider the chant that filled the hall after Palin spoke at the RNC, "Drill Drill Drill." I think of teeth when I think of drills. I think of rape. I think of destruction. I think of domination. I think of military exercises that force mindless repetition, emptying the brain of analysis, doubt, ambiguity or dissent. I think of pain. Do we want a future of drilling? More holes in the ozone, in the floor of the sea, more holes in our thinking, in the trust between nations and peoples, more holes in the fabric of this precious thing we call life?

Eve Ensler

September 5, 2008

Friday, September 19, 2008

Life on the Moon.... or over it for that matter

So things have been going pretty dern well. Counseling is going great, life is going great, love is beyond words. I’m at a very blissful stage in my life right now. I find pleasure in the simpler things in life now like reading a book or having a good conversation. I’m over the moon because I will be heading up to MI in 6 long days! But hey, it’s better than not at all. I miss Matt very much and can’t wait to see him again. I’ve read two new Hemingway books that I had never read before in the past two weeks and am determined to start reading The Broker again. Needless to say, I’ve been a pretty boring person these days, which isn’t a bad thing. Last night I walked into one of my old haunts since I was down on Granby Street, Time lounge, and it was kinda cool that no one recognized me immediately when I walked in. I talked to my token black guy Kenny (lol Kenny!) for a little while and he’s the one who brought up that point. He was like “Duude you are so lucky, have you seen how everyone just walks by you and doesn’t recognize you?” He was totally right. I remember when I used to be out on that scene with those people all the time (stopped going out w/ them almost a year ago) and I couldn’t walk into anywhere without being bombarded by people. Now I’m low key, just another face in the crowed (until someone takes a second look and realizes it is me.) But anyways, I also bumped into my ex and his new (and now 5 months pregnant) girlfriend. I was truly glad to not still be with him any more. Not to mention I have the most wonderful man in the entire world.

I’m excited that the Palin hype has calmed down and the democratic party is ahead in the national polls again. There is hope after all!! That’s all I’m going to say about that.

Nothing big planned for this weekend. I’ll be doing a lot of cleaning, buying a few things to take to MI, and staying at home. Sounds exciting huh? I think I might go to Busch Gardens Sunday w/ some friends for the opening weekend of Howl-o-Scream. (Opening night is tonight but it’s always waayyyy crowded. Sunday is better causes none of the school kids are there). Man I am so overly excited about next week, I can’t even think of anything else. Now lets hope something screwed up doesn’t happen and I end up without a seat on the plane or something. :-)

And last on here WORK. So I might not have a job after today. Something screwed up happened on the ship yesterday and they said last time the guys on the ship screwed up, that that would be the last time. So unless they can work something out by the end of the day, we’re getting lay off notices. I’m not sure if I’m disappointed or not. What can I really do? My boss already told me he would make sure I was taken care of and had a job lined up for me, so that’s good. I guess we’ll wait until the end of the day today. Hey, worst comes to worst… I just won’t be using my returning flight from MI for a while. ;-) That wouldn’t be so bad.

Hope you guys are doing all right! I <3 you all!

XXXOOO
Lace

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Lipstick

ah politics. They make the world go round.... really they do. They also have been known to raise blood pressure, cause heart attacks, split families in half and of course most popular of all spark great debates that sometimes end in people not speaking to eachother for years. I used to keep very quiet about my political views. As early as this past summer, when asked whom i was voting for or about my political views, I told a close friend of mine that they were of a personal matter and something i did not care to discuss. Well, I guess out of lack of things to do i have become very openly opinionated about my stance in the world of politics (as you can probably see by reading this blog.). Anyways, reading the news this morning I came across something Obama said that may or may not be a direct attack on Sarah Palin's comment, "What's the difference between a pitt bull and a hockey mom? Lipstick" (by the way, as the proud owner of sorts of a pitt bull, i feel this comment lacks the effect she was going for because you see, my pitt bull is friendly, always happy/excited, likes to jump a lot, and above all things-is pretty dumb.... sounds more like an eager highschool/college girl than a force to be reckoned with to me.)

Anyways, Obama had this to say at his speech in Lebanon, VA the other night: “John McCain says he’s about change, too. Except – and so I guess his whole angle is, ‘Watch out, George Bush, except for economic policy, health-care policy, tax policy, education policy, foreign policy, and Karl Rove-style politics. We’re really gonna shake things up in Washington.’ That’s not change. That’s just calling some – the same thing, something different. You can put lipstick on a pig; it’s still a pig. You can wrap an old fish in a piece of paper called change. It’s still going to stink. After eight years, we’ve had enough of the same old thing.”

IMO, it does not sound like an attack in the context given. Taken out of context, maybe. It looks more like an unfortunate choice of words following so closely behind Palin's speech at the RNC. But either way, it is the world of politics... its not pretty, people have been known to play dirty. Oh, and also, it's NOTHING compared to the rutheless campaign adds and comments McCain himself has made about Obama, so why all the whining?

VA's fine Rep. Thelma Drake (R), whom I've never been a fan of by the way for obvious reasons, had this to say in response to Obama's speech: “Rather than delivering on his promise of hope and change, Barack Obama sunk to a new low with his remarks today regarding Gov. Sarah Palin." She went on to conclude “It’s hard for Barack Obama to paint himself as the agent of change if he harbors the same mindset that Sarah Palin, and millions of women just like her, have been fighting against their whole lives.”

Wow. Let's pull the woman card again. Isn't it hilarious that when Hillary was running for president all these political (primarily Repulican) types were all saying how degrading it was to women to pull the woman card? I don't know about ya'll but i never feel I've had to fight against adversity this day and age as a female. All they've been doing since Palin got on the ballad is pulled the female card and everything is suddenly "sexist". The GOP has done pretty much all it can to make us feel sympathetic toward Palin. I understand we women would LOVE to see a female in the VP and some day President seat, but if McCain is elected based on the want for "Girl Power" this will have been the stupidest most uneducated election ever.

Don't get me wrong though, I think everything that Sarah Palin stands for in the females eye is great. A woman rasing a family and publicly facing a bit of a family crisis is admirable. But the only thing i ask people do is listen to what she has to say politicaly. not just that she's a hockey mom. If you really agree with hers (AND MCCAIN'S-REMEMBER THAT'S THE BIG ONE) political point of view, then by all means please vote for them. But if not, don't vote based on gender and circumstance.. then you're just playing into the same act that same party preached again when Hil was in the running for president. You wouldn't want to be a hypocrit now would you?

Monday, September 8, 2008

Something in life is actually Under-rated.

After watching a marathon of tear-jerker movies yesterday, I have realized one great truth… I will get to that in a minute however, I’m going to give you a little background first. Yesterday I watched United “Flight 93” (Which is a terrible movie to watch if your significant other is a pilot), “Ladder 49”, and “P.S. I love you.” All three of these flicks have one very common theme. The love of your life dying before their “time.” That being said this truth I realized is how under-appreciated growing old with someone is. This day and age if you find someone you are going to truly spend the rest of your life with, that’s a small miracle within itself. I have come to realize that more than I would like to think or imagine, people are tragically taken away from us leaving a part of us broken and lonely for the rest of our lives….yearning for just one more day, wishing you could still touch that person. Oh how fragile life is..

So next time you see that cheesy old couple in the park w/ matching jogging suits on bickering at each other, instead of joking on them think of how lucky they are. And don’t stop there, hope that you too can be that lucky.

Thursday, September 4, 2008

Liar Liar Pants on Fire...

So, Do you really want this woman possibly leading our country in the case the republicans win the election? (Cause we all know McCain is old as shit and will be lucky to survive his first term....)

Found this on perezhilton.com its a great blog... please read people. Our country's future is at stake.... plus it's kinda hilarious watching polititions being cause in a lie hahaha


Looks like the lipstick wearing pit bull proved herself to be just like the typical politico types she slammed!
She's a liar and exaggerator!
The Associated Press closely watched Governor Sarah Palin, the GOP's VP pick, at last night's RNC convention and has
outlined the many ways she exaggerated and lied.
Right or Left, a lie is a lie. It doesn't matter where on the political spectrum you are, right?
These are not 'personal' digs, mind you.
She's lying on the 'professional' stage, y'all.
Check out Pinocchio Palin's
claims and the truth:

PALIN: "I have protected the taxpayers by vetoing wasteful spending … and championed reform to end the abuses of earmark spending by Congress. I told the Congress 'thanks but no thanks' for that Bridge to Nowhere."
THE FACTS: As mayor of Wasilla, Palin hired a lobbyist and traveled to Washington annually to support earmarks for the town totaling $27 million. In her two years as governor, Alaska has requested nearly $750 million in special federal spending, by far the largest per-capita request in the nation. While Palin notes she rejected plans to build a $398 million bridge from Ketchikan to an island with 50 residents and an airport, that opposition came only after the plan was ridiculed nationally as a "bridge to nowhere."

PALIN: "There is much to like and admire about our opponent. But listening to him speak, it's easy to forget that this is a man who has authored two memoirs but not a single major law or reform — not even in the state senate."
THE FACTS: Compared to McCain and his two decades in the Senate, Obama does have a more meager record. But he has worked with Republicans to pass legislation that expanded efforts to intercept illegal shipments of weapons of mass destruction and to help destroy conventional weapons stockpiles. The legislation became law last year. To demean that accomplishment would be to also demean the work of Republican Sen. Richard Lugar of Indiana, a respected foreign policy voice in the Senate. In Illinois, he was the leader on two big, contentious measures in Illinois: studying racial profiling by police and requiring recordings of interrogations in potential death penalty cases. He also successfully co-sponsored major ethics reform legislation.

PALIN: "The Democratic nominee for president supports plans to raise income taxes, raise payroll taxes, raise investment income taxes, raise the death tax, raise business taxes, and increase the tax burden on the American people by hundreds of billions of dollars."
THE FACTS: The Tax Policy Center, a think tank run jointly by the Brookings Institution and the Urban Institute, concluded that Obama's plan would increase after-tax income for middle-income taxpayers by about 5 percent by 2012, or nearly $2,200 annually. McCain's plan, which cuts taxes across all income levels, would raise after tax-income for middle-income taxpayers by 3 percent, the center concluded.
Obama would provide $80 billion in tax breaks, mainly for poor workers and the elderly, including tripling the Earned Income Tax Credit for minimum-wage workers and higher credits for larger families.
He also would raise income taxes, capital gains and dividend taxes on the wealthiest. He would raise payroll taxes on taxpayers with incomes above $250,000, and he would raise corporate taxes. Small businesses that make more than $250,000 a year would see taxes rise.


The AP report also showed how Palin's champions have exaggerated the Alaskan governor's 'acheivements':

MCCAIN: "She's been governor of our largest state, in charge of 20 percent of America's energy supply … She's responsible for 20 percent of the nation's energy supply. I'm entertained by the comparison and I hope we can keep making that comparison that running a political campaign is somehow comparable to being the executive of the largest state in America," he said in an interview with ABC News' Charles Gibson.
THE FACTS: McCain's phrasing exaggerates both claims. Palin is governor of a state that ranks second nationally in crude oil production, but she's no more "responsible" for that resource than President Bush was when he was governor of Texas, another oil-producing state. In fact, her primary power is the ability to tax oil, which she did in concert with the Alaska Legislature. And where Alaska is the largest state in America, McCain could as easily have called it the 47th largest state — by population.

MCCAIN: "She's the commander of the Alaska National Guard. … She has been in charge, and she has had national security as one of her primary responsibilities," he said on ABC.
THE FACTS: While governors are in charge of their state guard units, that authority ends whenever those units are called to actual military service. When guard units are deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan, for example, they assume those duties under "federal status," which means they report to the Defense Department, not their governors. Alaska's national guard units have a total of about 4,200 personnel, among the smallest of state guard organizations.

FORMER ARKANSAS GOV. MIKE HUCKABEE: Palin "got more votes running for mayor of Wasilla, Alaska than Joe Biden got running for president of the United States."
THE FACTS: A whopper. Palin got 616 votes in the 1996 mayor's election, and got 909 in her 1999 re-election race, for a total of 1,525. Biden dropped out of the race after the Iowa caucuses, but he still got 76,165 votes in 23 states and the District of Columbia where he was on the ballot during the 2008 presidential primaries.


FORMER MASSACHUSETTS GOV. MITT ROMNEY: "We need change, all right — change from a liberal Washington to a conservative Washington! We have a prescription for every American who wants change in Washington — throw out the big-government liberals, and elect John McCain and Sarah Palin."
THE FACTS: A Back-to-the-Future moment. George W. Bush, a conservative Republican, has been president for nearly eight years. And until last year, Republicans controlled Congress. Only since January 2007 have Democrats have been in charge of the House and Senate.

We say if the 'means' are shady then it must mean the 'end' is shady.
No more shade!


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